Tuesday, February 23, 2010

Pussy Licking, or How to Make Her Scream

For all the common jokes and comments made on TV about eating a girl out I have rarely actually heard any of my male or lesbian friend say that they don't like doing it.  On the contrary, most of them enjoy doing it.  This might have more to do with my caliber of friends and less to do with a more accepting population, but that's not really the point now is it. So here's the mission statement.

Eat her out as often as you can!

That being said, most of you should already know and have some experience with this.  Again if not, you might as well just go back to surfing for porn and jerking off into a napkin.  For those of you interested in my thoughts on eating a girl out, read on. First off, does anyone know why they call it eating out?  You're not "out"; you're most likely at home, or at a home.  You're not sucking her insides out (if you do, turn off the Hoover and call EMS!) So there's really no "out" going on is there? For that matter, you're not eating either.  Eating implies something that can be digested, and if you're doing this, Mr. Hannibal, I doubt she is enjoying it much.  Ok, so eating out is a bad term, but so many people use it, and let's not get started on some of the other slang, I'm sorry; a pussy does not look anything like a taco.  But I digress.

If you need to be told why women like having their pussies licked, then you need more help then I can give you.  It's pleasurable, it feels wonderful, and like a blowjob, it feels better then a finger playing with her clit (sorry to burst your bubble guys).  It's the warmth of the mouth, the feel of the bumps on the tongue, the sucking, the biting, all of it.  As pleasurable as two fingers rubbing across her clit can be, there really is no substitute for getting down and putting lips to lips.

Guys, there is no reason why you cannot enjoy this too.  In fact you should be enjoying it; you are giving your lover pleasure.  To be truly good in bed you must have good oral sex skills, too.  Licking pussy feels really good, but a different good, just like a blowjob feels different than sex.  Let's face it, there is nothing better than knowing that she may boast about your oral skills with some of her girlfriends; it's a badge of honor to be good at getter her off with your mouth.

A common issue when going down on women (and men too, now that I think about it) is uncontrolled bucking when you hit just the right spot.  Ladies, be careful and try to control it if you can, having to explain to the dentist why you lost your two front teeth might be funny in a sitcom, but not in real life.  Men, use this to your advantage.  If you see she likes to buck and move around while you're licking her, then try and work with her motions, not fight them.  You can keep her from killing you by placing one hand under her upper thigh and holding her pelvis.  This can help in other ways, but we'll get to that.

So, if she likes to buck up, then move so that every time she bucks you hit that same spot again. If she likes to grind in circles, then work counter to her movements.  Just keep in mind, that just like men who start to thrust during a blowjob and find it hard not to, so do women when their having their pussies licked.

There are many anatomical parts that make up the pussy: I will not get into them here; they have been covered way too much already.  So for simplicities sake, we're going to break it down into four areas: outer lips, inner lips, hood, and clit.  Got it?  Just like a guy's dick, this whole area is full of nerve endings, and some are a lot more sensitive than others.  But, you should always pay attention to the whole area, not just the clit.  Show of hands, who is guilty of going straight for the clit, and staying there paying no attention to the rest of her pussy?  Half of you are lying, I have done it, and I know that just about every guy here has done it at least once.

Now that I have made that clear, here is how I normally go about licking a girl up the wall.  Usually, I start with the inner thigh, with a bit of biting, nibbling, and kissing (What, the inner thigh you say, I thought this was about pussy?).  The inner thigh is also very sensitive, plus the skin there is very soft and just fun to touch.  I then work my way to the outer lips, kissing and nibbling along the way.  Now the outer lips do have more feeling then say her kneecaps, but are the least sensitive of the whole pussy.  So feel free to bite, nibble, and caress the outer lips; it is still pleasurable but will not cause her to see the stars move.  Guys, think of this as the base of the shaft, feels nice but it isn't the cookie popper.

Next comes the inner lips, these are very sensitive compared to the outer lips.  This is why you have to move the outer lips, or part them, to get at the inner lips.  These can be all sorts of fun, as you can bite and nibble on them too, just not as hard as you did the outer lips.  Mix it up, between outer and inner, the tension and variation in sensations is very pleasurable.  Guys, think of this as when she varies the speed during a blowjob.

The last two parts are connected: the hood and the clit.  Now, I have found that how sensitive the hood is can vary greatly from woman to woman.  I don't know why, maybe it has something to do with when they learned how to ride a bike, I don't know.  So, play around with the hood, if she enjoys it, great, more fun for you and her, if not, then just move on.  Now the hood sits over the clit (Gee, is that why it's called a hood?), you have a few options here.  You can lick up from the lips and dig your tongue under the hood.  You can move it aside using broad licks, or you can move it with your hand.  Remember, the arm that's been sitting under her thigh all this time, it’s now time for it to come in to play.  By pulling on the skin right above where her pubic hair ends, you can latterly lift the hood and separate the outer lips all in one motion with one hand.

Now as wonderful as it is to watch her thrash around the bed as you flick your tongue across her clit, this can become painful to her.  Just like if she sucked as hard as she could just on the head of your dick.  So mix it up, spend a while on the clit, then move to the outer lips, back to the clit, lick the inner lips, back to the clit, and bite her thigh… You get the picture.  Once you know she's ready to cum then increase the amount of time on the clit, but increase it gradually.  I have found that long strokes of the tongue starting at the bottom of her pussy and licking all the way past the clit works well to hit a lot of nerve endings and to spread the pleasure around.

Eating pussy is about more than just licking her clit, or even your tongue.  You have a whole mouth to work with.  Sucking part of her inner/outer lips or clit into your mouth and then flicking your tongue across it is great for her. Sucking on just about any part feels good to her, just not hard and not too long.  You do not want to leave a hickey down there, trust me!

Biting can also be pleasurable to her, as long as it is not too hard; this takes a lot of control.  I would say if you are going to start biting her, start with the inner thigh and work your way in.  This way you can judge what is too much before you get to the really sensitive parts.

I may be braking some unknown cardinal man rule here, but when you're licking pussy you are not restricted to just your mouth.  I have already told you what to do with one hand, well now it’s time for the other.  Fingering her while eating her out will feel phenomenal to her.  It adds internal stimulation to the external from your tongue.  Hell, even use a toy if you want, it’s just more pleasure for her. 

Now I have found that if your girl likes to move around a lot you can get her squirming with delight, by placing one finger just at the base of her pussy, right on the outside, as if you were going to enter her.  Let her own movements slid your finger or thumb around her opening.  Most women at this point will try to squirm down to your finger or thumb driving her nuts trying to get your finger into her.  This teasing will drive her wild with lust for her and is very interesting to watch happen.

This can be a challenge depending on the body type of your lady, position of both of you, and whether or not she is a clencher (a women that, near orgasm, clenches her thighs together) .I have found two ways to make sure you can still keep breathing when orally pleasing a woman.  One, try and keep your head to one side, possibly even resting it on one of her thighs.  This leaves you a bit of room to breathe out the side of your mouth while still pleasing her.  Two, if she is clenching a bit, tilt you head up a little, even going as far as placing your nose on her hood.  This allows you to leave the bottom of your mouth open for air, and when done right, can even help with moving the hood up and out of the way.

If she does clench her thighs and you find yourself unable to breathe, stop stimulating her, and the clenching should stop.  If it doesn't and she is grinding into your face with the ferocity of a woman at a going out of business sale at Fredrick's of Hollywood, hold your breath and hold on for she's about to cum. Then talk about it afterwords.  This is similar to a man uncontrollably thrusting into a woman's mouth during a blowjob.  She may even, like men, grab your head and force you there.  At this point, go read my blog about hair grabbing.  Most of the same rules apply here as they do to men.

There are a few other things that are going to play a part in your oral skills: tongue/lip piercing, and beards.  Basically, anything that you have around your mouth.  Now, just like a tongue or lip piercing can make a blowjob more pleasurable and different, it has the same effect on women for the same reasons.  That little ball can be used to flick the clit, add a bit more sensation to licking, and add a little bit of spice to the fun.  Beards are similar to this as it does add a little bit of extra friction to the inner thighs when you're licking her.  Most women that I have talked to or been with do not feel that beards hinder or help when going down, as long as they are trimmed and maintained.  This is especially true of stubble.  It can feel like sand paper on that sensitive skin.  Do you want sand paper rubbed rapidly across your inner thing and crotch?

I cannot stress enough the importance of positioning during oral sex.  If anyone is uncomfortable, then it hinders the experience.  Make sure both of you are comfortable before beginning, this little bit of time spent doing so is well worth not having to stop because she is getting a crick in her neck from leaning against the wall.

The most common is the woman laying on the bed and the man below lying on his stomach.  This can work well, but usually puts a strain on the man's neck.  A better one is for her to lie on her back with her ass on the edge of the bed, with the man kneeling on the floor.  This also works well with her sitting on the couch.  If this just doesn't work for you (he has knee injuries from HS football) grab a pillow or two and place them under her ass to prop her up a bit.  Both of you lying on your sides also works well to elevate neck strain.

What would it be worth going through periods every month if a woman couldn't have multiply orgasms?  Unlike men, women can have orgasm after orgasm and come back for more.  With this is mind there is no reason not to make her cum a few times eating her out before moving to the other festivities.  When done right, you can have her starting to orgasm from your tongue and move right into sex to continue her orgasm until you cum.

So, I have given you my take on licking pussy.  I just hope that those men that currently aren't "going down there" for fear of being bad at it or any other testosterone induce stupidity, will shut up and put their mouths to good use.  Those that are already striving for oral perfection keep up the good work, and I hope I may have given you a few new tricks.

Until next time!

Later!

-Haven De Lancret

2 comments:

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